John Reid

Obituary of John David Reid

On Saturday, May 7, 2022, USN Commander (Ret) John ( “Jay”) David Reid, widower, and father of two children, passed away at the age of 76.


Jay was born on November 24, 1945, in Washington, DC, to the late Upton D. and Dixie G. Reid. He graduated from Bladensburg High School in 1963 and the University of Maryland in 1968. Jay then joined the U.S. Navy, entering flight training in Pensacola, Florida, where he met and married Martha (“Marty”) Rodgers, in 1975. The U.S. Navy transferred Jay to Virginia Beach, Virginia, where he and Marty happily lived. Jay and Marty were blessed with two children, Darby and Matthew, in 1978 and 1980.


During Jay’s Naval career he flew in the F-4 Phantom and F-14 Tomcat as a navigator (RIO) on numerous deployments, including Vietnam, where he flew 120 missions. Jay received two masters degrees, the first in 1986 and a second in 1992. Jay retired from the U.S. Navy in 1992 and decided to stay close to home in Virginia Beach. Jay’s second career was at Massey Enterprises where he designed emergency operations. After the attacks on the World Trade Center on September 11, 2001, Jay continued to serve his country when he traveled to New York City to assist with emergency operations. After 25 years with Massey Enterprises, Jay retired in 2017 so he could spend more time with his family and on his hobbies. Jay’s hobbies included photography, Redskins football, rifle/pistol shooting tournaments, and involvement in his church, Saint Aidan’s Episcopal. Jay served as a Junior Warden there and was a man of God.

Jay always found humor in life and was a kind, gentle soul. He enjoyed visits from his grandchildren, and was always ready to take photos of the moments he treasured. Jay’s low-keyed nature, humorous personality, and caring compassion drew people to him. He delighted in spending time with friends, serving God, traveling with Marty, or getting a sundae at McDonalds. He found special pleasure in walks with Dexter, his Miniature Schnauzer.


Jay was preceded in death by his parents and wife. Left to cherish his memory are his children Darby Nelson (Chris) and Matthew Reid, his twin sister Frances Lee Reid-Sanden (Gary), and grandchildren Bryce and Ruby Nelson.



A memorial service will be held at Saint Aidan’s Episcopal Church at 10 am on Saturday, May 28, 2022. 



In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to Saint Aidan’s, 3201 Edinburgh Drive, Virginia Beach, Virginia 23452.

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