Kathryn Smith

Obituary of Kathryn McIntosh Smith

We are heartbroken to announce the passing of Kay Smith, our loving, caring and resilient wife, mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, and friend. Kay is survived by the love of her life and husband of 45 years, Edwin Smith, her devoted and loving son, Timothy Stapleton, her loving sister, Ann McIntosh Godden, her stepchildren Timothy Smith, Kimberly Goad, Bradley Smith, and Kelly Tapia, her grandchildren, Jake, Noel and Casey Stapleton, Zack Glascock, and Sarah Goad, her new great-grandson, Beni Stapleton, and many more family members and friends. She joins in heaven her parents, Janaan Leonard McIntosh and Edgar Caldwell McIntosh of Arlington, Virginia, along with three of her siblings, Jan McIntosh Caprio, Patricia McIntosh Day, and brother Edgar C McIntosh Jr.


Kay’s vibrant smile and presence brought joy and strength to the lives of her friends, family and communities. Described by her grandchildren as “the rock of the family,” their “best friend” and “The ONE and ONLY Mana,” Mana Kay in turn described herself as their “biggest fan.”


Born Mary Kathryn McIntosh on August 21, 1942 in Washington DC, she was the third of five siblings. Their parents, Edgar and Janaan, made a home for the family in Arlington, and Kay attended St. Thomas Moore Catholic School and Immaculate Conception Academy. Kay married her “Eddie” in her parents’ North Arlington home on July 4, 1976, the bicentennial of our country. 


After a 30-year career as a respected legal secretary for firms in both Washington, D.C. and Reston, Virginia Kay then pursued her passion for health and fitness as a personal trainer for over 15 years.


Kay lived in Reston for over 47 years with Eddie, and in their later years with their fur babies, Havanese siblings, Bella and Leo, and their cockapoo, Cooper. 


After a few summers vacationing in Bethany Beach, Delaware, the Smiths became homeowners at Sea Colony, a resort community, in 1991. Kay enjoyed splitting her time between Reston and Sea Colony. Described as “incredibly athletic,” Kay was a founding member of the Slice Girls tennis team, where tennis friends loving called her “The General” for her efficiency and organizational leadership talents. In addition to Kay’s passion for tennis, she enjoyed many years of adventures with her dear friends known as “The Fab Five.”


After a brief reoccurrence of cancer, Kay passed peacefully at home in the presence of her family on November 22, 2021.


She was beautiful, energetic and thoughtful. Perhaps the best word to describe Kay is her own favorite word: “fabulous.” Kay was simply fabulous in how she showed up for her family and friends - always with style, generosity and a natural ability for showing each of us that we were special and loved.


A celebration of Kay Smith’s life will be held in Reston, Virginia on December 22nd, 2021. A second celebration of life is planned in Bethany Beach, Delaware on Kay’s birthday, August 21st, 2022.


In lieu of flowers, donations can be sent to People’s Place in memory of Kay Smith in honor of her dedication to Delaware Womenade for their support of the Domestic Violence Program.  Peoples Place, 1129 Airport Rd.  Milford, DE  19963. www.peoplesplace2.com.




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