Ashok Nabibux Patet

Prof. Rev. Ashok Patet, 81, residing in Falls Church, VA, left for his heavenly home on July 17, 2022. Born on October 1, 1940, to Manorama and Nabibux Patet in Mumbai, India he spent most of his life in the city with a long fulfilling career at Wilson college as Professor and Head of the sociology department, Warden of St. Andrew’s men’s hostel (SAH), Director of the Counseling Center, and Chaplain of the college chapel from 1964 to 1993. A fellow of the Association of Psychological and Educational Counselors in Asia (APECA), he also served as the president of the organization from 1990 -1991 and later founded the Center for Human Growth and Development (CHUGRAD) an organization committed to enriching lives through innovative programming based on community needs. After intermittent short-term appointments with the Bombay Annual Conference, Methodist church of India, he stepped into fulltime ministry pastoring the Church of St. Andrews and St. Columba, Mumbai, India from 1991 – 2000 and Greene UMC – Church of the Brethren Yoke, Iowa from 2001 to 2013. Maryville became home to Ashok after retirement, where he lived with his daughter Pradnya and grandson, Matteo until 2020 before moving to live with Nisha, his older daughter and her family in Falls Church, VA.

A devoted husband, loving father, and proud grandpa, he will forever be remembered for the impressions he left on not just his own children and grandchildren but many students whose lives he touched as a professor and mentor. He was a father figure for many of his students residing in SAH, a caring pastor to his parishioners, and a generous person. Stories of his travels and numerous experiences entertained many but more importantly, fostered connections and relationships. He was a man of faith, a teacher at heart, and a gracious spirit who dedicated himself to a life of service. He was deeply committed to resisting injustices taking leadership in seeking fairness especially for the less fortunate. Grace offered at meals always ended with “keep us always mindful of the needs of others”.

Ashok is survived by his older daughter Nisha, Son-in-law Pradeep, and grandchildren Anuraag and Arijeet of Falls Church, VA; his younger daughter Pradnya and grandson Matteo of Chester, VA; and his stepsisters Saroj Thakore and Vatsala Deodhar in India. He is preceded in death by his wife, Pratibha whom he so dutifully cared for during her prolonged illness.

A service celebrating his life will be held at First United Methodist church, Maryville, MO on his birthday, October 1 in the afternoon. More details will be posted nearer the time.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests that friends honor Ashok’s work with college students and his dedication to the field of education through contributions to the John Tyler Community College General Scholarship Fund. Contributions may be made by check to JTCC Foundation, 800 Charter Colony Parkway, Midlothian, VA 23114 or online at Pradnya teaches here, at Brightpoint Community College, formerly known as John Tyler Community College.

The family wishes to extend their gratitude to the many dedicated caregivers who took care of him during the last few years of his life. Thank you, Tammy (Maryville, MO), Elizabeth (Falls Church, VA), Jessica, Shayna, Leslie, Talina, and Joanna of Home Instead, St. Joseph, MO; and Oliver, Stacey, Pauline, and Angie of Avalon House, Falls Church, VA; Promedica Hospice nurse Diana; and music therapist Cassie.