The First Holiday After a Loved One’s Death

By: Jacklyn Hutchens
Monday, January 31, 2022

If you're facing the first Christmas after a death of a loved one, celebrating may be the furthest thing from your mind. After all, grief can make special days harder. You may also wonder if you'll ever enjoy them again. However, you can get through the holiday season by allowing yourself to grieve, taking time for yourself, and finding new ways to celebrate the holidays and the deceased.

What's the best way to face these days when, rather than feeling festive, you're feeling the loss most keenly? Trying to ignore important occasions can also be painful, so that probably isn't the best strategy. Thinking ahead about making the day easier for your family can help. Here are some helpful tips on how to handle the holidays, like the first Christmas after a death of a loved one:

1. Honor Your Feelings

Sometimes, parents and children feel they need to bravely face when they feel sad, especially during the holidays. But remember that it is okay to feel sad and show grief. It's important to honor our feelings when missing a loved one at Christmas, but intense we feel them. If you sense the urge to have a good cry in between bites of turkey and mashed potatoes, there is no shame in doing so.

2. Share Happy Memories

Everyone knows this year is different since someone significant in your life is missing out on the festivities. This makes it an ideal time to honor their memories. Some families light a candle and pass it around the table as each member says a few words or shares a happy or funny memory.

3. Remember That This Too Shall Pass

The most important thing is to take care of yourself during this challenging season. Feel your feelings, take some alone time if needed, and remember that everything in life changes, including feelings of grief.

Let Us Help You Memorialize

Remembering is part of grieving and healing. Here at Direct Cremation Services of Virginia, we have everything you need to memorialize your loved one. Our memorial items include 3D crystal tributes, custom 3D printed urns, and more. Visit our website today to learn more.

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