Daniel Walter Kilcup
Born on: March 26, 1942
Departed on: November 24, 2014
Service: Saturday, December 6, 2014 at 1 pm at St. Anne's Episcopal Church, Reston, Virginia
Daniel Walter Kilcup, 72, of Reston VA, died Monday, November 24, 2014 at the Adler Hospice Center in Aldie, VA, following a hard-fought, 16-month battle with pancreatic cancer. He left behind an adoring wife of 29 years, Susan Olson Kilcup, and a wealth of friends and family who are deeply feeling his absence in their lives.
Dan was a proud New Yorker who was born in Coney Island Hospital in 1942, grew up in Flatbush, and attended Erasmus High School before joining the Navy at 17 years of age. He proudly served as the Admiral’s Yeoman onboard a Naval aircraft carrier during the Bay of Pigs invasion, and started his career in printing and graphics by writing, editing, and cranking out hundreds of copies of news updates on the event on a mimeograph machine. And even this early on, Dan showed a love for music and dragged his drum set through foreign ports of call to play in rag-tag bands. His skills as a Yeoman served him well after leaving the Navy, where back in NYC he became a typist with AllenWayne Printing and Graphics. Within a year the owner recognized that Dan had amazing creative and marketing talents (and was a workaholic who slept in the office after working all night) and chose him to open a new branch of the company in the Washington, DC market in 1965. (During the early 70’s Dan also formed Tobacco Road, a classic rock band, and played throughout the DC/VA/MD area for several years.) As President and CEO, Dan made that office thrive as well, and was able to buy the company from his boss and mentor within the next few years. He was extremely proud to have seen the company reach almost 50 years of success in the field, evolving from full-fledged printing services into the internet realm, and then diversifying into a fully digital environment. Dan continually kept AllenWayne at the forefront of what the marketplace demanded, doing independent research and always, always - putting customer service and loyalty building at the top of his list. Dan retired in 2008, turning the reins over to a man he always considered a second son, Roland Owens, and AllenWayne continues to thrive under Roland as it plans a move to new office space next month.
Retirement meant nothing to Dan but more chances to be busy. Forever a traveller and adventurer, he and Susan took even more trips, became involved with more causes, and gained even more time for creative ventures. Dan wrote and published Sherlock Holmes novels, created amazing string art photographs, and served as “Gigmaster” and drummer to a thriving classic rock band in the DC area, Back N Time, playing venues from the Washington Golf and Country Club to the Annual Muscular Dystrophy Run (see www.dankilcup.com for all of his exploits, and to order a free Kindle copy of his books). Dan was a generous supporter of the Hospice Cup Races and Hospice of Northern Virginia (now CapitalCaring, where he spent his last days at their Adler Hospice center) and donated proceeds from his early novels to them. He was also an enthusiastic supporter of various other causes and constantly discovered new ones, including the Friends of Fairfax County Animal Shelter (where Susie volunteered) and many local area theater companies, as he loved live theater.
But beyond work, travel, and entertainment - Dan was a man who dearly loved and treasured his family. He was always available to offer the latest tech or business advice, discuss world affairs, or amuse kids and adults alike with his silly, brilliant humor. He was one of a kind, and when Dan was in a room, you knew it. He leaves behind beloved daughter June of San Diego, CA, who was the apple of his eye and cut from the same bright cloth, and her amazingly talented husband Michael, and their precious daughters Shelby and Natalie, with husband Christopher. He was preceded in death by a son, Danny, a brilliant and loving young man, who gifted him with a really special granddaughter, Nicole Hanson, of Pasadena, CA, who with husband Dan have given him four great-grandchildren, Daniel, Reid, Bennett, and newborn Kennedy, who actually got to meet her granddad when she was only a week old. On Susan’s side, he leaves a beloved son Michael in New York City (who was truly a son to Dan), whose daughter Emma always brought joy to his eyes, and whose mother Cindy was a constant positive presence in his life as well. Dan adored Susan’s family - Ed and Nancye Lindsey were HIS parents, he said so frequently, and he loved planning special trips and traveling with them every year. Her sisters Debbie Gillett, Pat Lindsey and Cathy Lindsey (along with husband Rick Rambo) found in Dan the brother they never had, and he clearly loved them like a brother - complete with teasing and guidance counseling. Debbie’s husband Don and children David Gillett and Lisa Fore (with husband Jason) were also much loved by him, as were David and Lisa’s children - He never tired of talking with bright Maddie, or picking out special toys to amuse Riley and Cassie. He left behind beloved pup Peaches, who stayed by his side throughout his illness and at the end, napped on his lap. And Dan treasured greatly Susan’s family with her first husband and Michael’s father, Allan Olson (now deceased)- who live in Lowry Virginia. Sister-and-Brother-in-Love Carolyn and Jack Blevins and their precious daughters Alaina (of Lowry) and Christina (of Los Angeles) held a special place in his heart, and even though their mother Delia, father Carl, and grandmother Nana (Caroline) are now deceased, they gave him a spiritual and religious grounding that carried him through to his last days.
In his last months, Dan grew to realize he not only had tremendous love coming from his family, but that he had a wide swath of friendships that quickly showed their true colors. Whether long-time friends, beloved bandmates, casual neighbors, or Susan’s coworkers - love and support poured from all of them, astounding Dan and making him exclaim, “I had no idea so many people cared so much for me.”
Silly Dan. Of course we do. :)
A Memorial Service will be held Saturday, December 6, 2014 at 1 pm with reception to follow at St. Anne’s Episcopal Church, 1700 Wainwright Drive, Reston, VA 20190. Dan’s ashes will be scattered later in Lake Thoreau, Reston; Raleigh, NC; San Diego, CA; Topsail Island, NC; Lowry VA; Flatbush, NY; and eventually, Venice, Italy, his beloved honeymoon destination. We are also creating a special Memory Book, if you would like to contribute a memory, tribute or photo of Dan please email it to Susan at email@example.com and we would be thrilled to include it in the book.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Dan's memory to Friends of the Fairfax County Animal Shelter, www.ffcas.org